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“What’s your name?” A story of implicit bias

I recently tied the knot with my long-term girlfriend and best friend, and while the wedding day flew by without a hitch, it’s become evident that the days ahead for her will never be the same. What’s in a name? My last name is Aguilar and, although my name might suggest otherwise, I’m a white […]

Sharing Our Story in Oakland

A couple of weeks ago, I was honored to attend the Neighborhood Funders Group (NFG) in Oakland, California, to speak about the work we are doing in Dubuque to advance equity and inclusion. NFG’s mission is to build capacity in philanthropy to advance social justice and community change. Throughout the conference, I was struck by […]

How many gas stations are there downtown?

I’ve experienced a few times a feeling of annoyance that there aren’t any gas stations in downtown Dubuque. It’s really inconvenient! But when I really pay attention, I see that actually there are several. I don’t really have to go far to get to one. So what’s going on? Well, how do gas stations downtown […]

Changing the World Starts with One

The news of the horrific hate crime that took place in Orlando over the weekend has left many in our nation, and in our city, reeling. The Inclusive Dubuque Network wants our LGBTQ friends in Dubuque, and across the globe, to know that we stand with them. More than ever, it is clear that while […]

Breaking the Chain of Violence

Thinking about the terrorist attack in Orlando, it seems to me that there is a kind of evil we all recognize, in spite of our very real differences in this country. Indiscriminate murder by terrorist attack or suicide bombing is evil. Killing the innocent, the weak, the young or the old is evil. Murdering people […]

Finding Support During Tragedy

As soon as our community learned about the killings, we started reaching out to each other via social media, text and in-person. We started to express a need to connect with each other and act from that space. Below are some of our reflections, feelings and experiences. ” I want my presence to signify that […]

Reflecting on Orlando and What It Means to Be an Ally

Thank you so much Clare Forstie & Melanie Race for coordinating the conversation at the Multicultural Family Center tonight. What happened in Orlando feels too big to talk about. I will never make sense of it. All I can do is reflect on how to respond in a way that will not widen the rift. […]

Statement from Co Dubuque

We at Co Dubuque, as members of the Dubuque LGBTQ+ community, are horrified by the attack at Pulse early Sunday morning. Pulse is a gay club in Orlando, and the death of 49 of our community members and wounding of 53 more in one of the few spaces where it is safe to be out, […]

Dubuque Yoga Festival Focuses on Inclusivity

I used to be intimidated to go to a yoga class, much less a yoga festival with all of those people I imagined to be super-bendy with amazing bodies that belonged on the covers of yoga magazines. I don’t bend like that and my body doesn’t look like that. After going through a divorce, I […]

Moving Beyond Fear to Building Community

Dubuque has experienced its share of difficulties in the last couple of weeks. Among other things, overflowing homeless shelters, heroin overdose deaths and a cross burning. While we know these kinds of things happen in many other communities across the country, we still lament the fact that they are happening here. Of course, the all-consuming […]